Make it Mondays: Respect Yourself First and Others Will Follow…
Following up from yesterday’s episodic musing, I’d like to touch on a similar subject. In mentioning Sue and her transformation, let’s talk a little about respecting yourself.
Self-respect comes with many benefits, and in learning self-respect you get a chance to learn a lot about yourself, along with getting desired results in situations or life events. So let’s get started.
Respect Yourself First and Others Will Follow
For starters, let’s look at the dictionary version of self-respect:
pride and confidence in oneself; a feeling that one is behaving with honor and dignity.
synonyms: self-esteem, self-regard, amour propre, faith in oneself, pride, dignity, morale, self-confidence
Pretty straightforward right?
Let’s look briefly at that word “confidence.” A lot of people have a tendency to look at confidence as arrogance, cockiness or sometimes even narcissism. That’s not true.
Respecting yourself can mean standing up for something in life, not allowing people to walk over you, and standing your ground in getting something done – irregardless of what others say, think, or do. It’s making the conscious decision to allow and dismiss what you want and do not desire in your life or “vibration.”
To put it simply, whenever something’s “killing your vibe” making the decision to get whatever that something is as far as humanly possible the hell away from you.
Along with the free eBook I offer (fill out the form below to get it), I’d also like to point you in the direction of a very inspirational speaker – Louise Hay.
Now I’ll be honest – the first few minutes I heard this woman talk I thought to myself “are you serious?” but then, in believing it never hurts to try anything at least once, I didn’t jump to conclusions and listened more…and damn, am I glad I did.
I found the audio on YouTube and would like to share it with you all, you can view it below.
These “10 Steps to Loving Yourself” are simple, but powerful ways to really come eye to eye with the ever changing person you are and assess whether you’d like to improve certain aspects of yourself and what exactly those aspects are.
I followed the steps and I really must say, they do work. The main thing to remember is that your mind or “thought processor” as I like to call it is like a muscle. Two things help make a muscle better – exercise and diet. The more negative things you feed your mind (the diet), the harder it’s going to be to perform certain tasks (the exercises).
It’s like putting unleaded regular fuel in a car that very clearly states it needs PREMIUM grade petrol. Makes for yucky valve heads and an unhealthy engine.
Learning to think positively about yourself is the same concept – it’s also one of the key steps in learning to respect yourself. The more you take into consideration your own thoughts and value your own opinion when it comes to your own life, the less you’ll concern yourself with trying to please the people around you.
If you’re truly looking to experience a POSITIVE life, the first steps starts with yourself. Respect yourself, and even though it may not seem like it at first – especially if people are used to expecting characteristics THEY’RE comfortable with from you – soon, you’ll find people around you will begin to respect you accordingly.
But here’s the clincher – people will ONLY respect you based on the amount of respect you exhibit for yourself.
So if you’re driven, goal oriented, and take charge of a situation so it’s positive and healthy for you, people will follow suit and think twice before trying to push their negative thought processes onto you and instead, stay in their lane.
Set standards for yourself. Don’t settle if you really don’t want to. Set milestones – even little ones. The feeling of accomplishment will build your self confidence, thus making your respect yourself through appreciating and reflecting on your own victories.
Choose the crowd you hang around wisely. If you’re in a group that’s not moving forward and has zero ambition to do so, they’ll do nothing but slow you down the moment you decide you want MORE out of your life. Stick to being around like minded people, and they’ll value and respect your opinions and ambitions.
Choose the things you take in around you wisely. I feel I MUST reiterate this. Being careful of what you take in your ear gate and eye gate are critical.
If you’re trying to gain self-respect and self-confidence, do you really think watching that drama-genred show or movie about the person who’s constantly being put down or derailed is going to help you? I think not..if anything, it just pulls you into that unnecessary world of thinking even more.
Want business success? Watch movies where the main character turns into a success.
Want a great relationship? Focus on films where the relationship or process of getting into the relationship is healthy – not abusive or negative.
Want better friends? Watch shows or movies about friends that are like minded and looking out for each other’s best interest, instead of worrying about where they’re going to get their next high from or talking behind each other’s backs.
This is the exact reason I don’t believe in watching reality TV – it’s dramatized hype. Apply the same principle to the music you listen to. Think of other ways where you can inject positive, uplifting thoughts into your life and watch the self-respect follow.
Remember this: Your life is meant to be lived by YOU. If you don’t have a definite idea of what you believe your life is supposed to be about, your beliefs, and your thought processes on a day to day basis, you’re merely simulating a drifter. You’ve gotta stand for and believe in something – if not you’ll fall for anything. Let that something you stand for and believe in, be YOU.
It’s as simple as that.
Look out for this week’s “Spiritual Saturdays” post. It’s got some great points.
Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™
- Be Confident with Yourself! Follow These 12 Tips On How to Gain Confidence
- How to get respect and yet live free?
- R-E-S-P-E-C-T: Found Out What It Means To Me
- You Are Worthy
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